One of my students mentioned that his mom was pregnant a few weeks ago....Not my favorite subject to dwell on so I let it go.
She came in to volunteer a month or so ago and I could tell that she was sick with morning sickness...again, I'd rather avoid the topic so I didn't ask.
Today she came in again, and proceeded to talk about how sick she was. It was almost awkward if I didn't ask why. So she told me how indeed she was pregnant. I had to swallow my pride and ask all the questions. You know, how many weeks? Do you know what you're having? Etc etc.
Her due date you ask? March 25th. My exact due date for the last failed pregnancy. THE EXACT SAME DATE.
What the hell? Now I get to look at her every day when she gets bigger and bigger and think "that's exactly where I'd be".
Her 20 week ultrasound is Friday. That would have been me. Why did she have to have the exact same date? Ugh.
Unfreakingbelievable.
Seriously? I am so so sorry hun. Not fair at all!!! You should just transfer that student to a different class so you don't have to see their mom. Sending many many hugs.
ReplyDeleteThat has to be really hard. I am so sorry for the reminder.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry. That is so hard. I had 3 cousins all due within a few days of our first loss, and it's still hard to see them and their children. Isaac should be that age and playing with them. It's really not fair.
ReplyDeleteSee, why does the universe have to be so cruel sometimes!? I'm sorry K.
ReplyDeleteThis same thing happened with me and my hair stylist. I ditched her. I wish you could, too.
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry! My should be due date is next week & I know a few others due in the next couple of weeks. It is not easy! I am sorry you have this reminder. Hugs!!
ReplyDeleteI hate how this always happens! A girl at work was due right around the time that I lost my first baby. I remember the day she came in complaining that she found out it was a boy when she wanted a girl. That was like a knife to the heart. :( I am so sorry that you now have to deal with this. Just not fair, universe!! Sending you hugs.
ReplyDeleteThe universe can be a real bitch sometimes. It's just like adding salt to your wounds, and I'll never get it! I'm so sorry. :( My hardest one with my first loss was that a friend who was not married and NOT trying for a baby was pregnant and due about a week after me. I was so damn bitter that this unplanned baby got to live, while mine, who we spent over a year trying to conceive, didn't make it. It still hurts me to see him and know our first-born should be that same age. These little reminders make it so much harder to move forward sometimes!
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry...it is a terrible place to be in...I'm thinking of you!
ReplyDeleteThat's horrible. I have a friend who is due just one week before (not the same day -- thank GOD!) I would have been and it's been so hard watching her grow and prepare for another child. So I know how difficult it is and how much it sucks. I really feel for you. ~ hugs ~
ReplyDeleteI wish *we* didn't always have to be the bigger person. It's so hard when you are so tired. I'm sorry honey.
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ReplyDeleteSo sorry, K. The universe can be quite a bitch sometimes. Thinking of you, sweetie.
ReplyDeleteThat is just not what you need. Yuc, I am so sorry.
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry. this makes me cry just thinking about how hard that is. hugs :(
ReplyDeleteOf course it did. As if it weren't bad enough already ...
ReplyDeleteThat is awful. I cannot believe it was the same date. :( At a Halloween party, I had a similar thing happen. A woman was due one day before what should have been my baby's 1st bday. It hit me pretty hard. But the same exact due date...it sucks.
ReplyDeletePregnancies #2-#5 all had what I referred to in my head as "marker babies" - someone in my life with the exact same, or damn close to, due date. The pregnancies that I would watch progress as my heart broke, knowing that *I* should be feeling movement then or having a big ultrasound that day. And I still can't help but look at those children as the "what-ifs," the child I could've had at the same age. #2 was the worst - my SIL AND 2 coworkers all were due the same week, it almost broke me. It's no fun at all, and I'm sorry this person had to enter your life as you try to heal.
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UG what a punch in the heart. I am so sorry. I bet it is hard to keep personal and professional separate when you have this mom coming around your work
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