Tuesday, August 20, 2013

The New Most Annoying Question....

In the past, I have commented on how I was amazed at the questions and comments that would come out of people's mouths. "When are you going to have kids?"...."When are you going to try for another?"..."Why don't you just do ________?"

I can admit, before trying to start a family I probably have asked someone this as well. Not knowing what that person my be going through and not realizing that IT IS NO ONES BUSINESS!

But now I've had a new question thrown my direction on multiple occasions. It has quite a few different spins on it, but all the same principle.

"So, are you going to try for a boy?"

I just can't believe that someone would think that I wouldn't be content with having two girls. That I would need to try to roll the dice to see if I could have a boy. As if things were less than ideal with two girls and as if I weren't over the moon happy with having the living baby that I prayed and wished and dreamed of.

That day when they told me Nora had a sister I cried my eyes out. Not because it was a girl, or because it wasn't a boy...but because my baby was here. My baby was alive and crying in the background and for the first time in three years I was on the other side of the fence. Leaving the opertaing room with tears of joy rather than tears of sadness.

So to those who ask me if I'm going to try for a boy my answer is simple. I've been to hell and back to have this baby girl and my heart is content and filled with happiness.

That and mind your own damn business.


  1. Yep yep yep. I just wrote a post about this as well (but the opposite, b/c everyone seems to think I should be SO grateful we're "getting" a boy this time). So frustrating.

  2. So many people have been told since they were younger that you grow up and have a boy and a girl blah blah. So many people that haven't found financially and emotionally to have any child, healthy, have no concept.

    Two beautiful girls sound perfect.

  3. Agreed.. I probably would have totally been the annoying lady who asked those questions if I hadn't gone through anything... Really they need to make a PSA about that not being.. cool.

    And holy crap on a cracker when I think back to having ANY preference sex-wise, I can hardly believe I ever cared.

  4. I know, right!? People ask me if I would like a boy or a girl next and I say that I just want a healthy baby. I don't care if it is a boy or a girl! Oh and amen to "MYOB"!!!

  5. I cannot tell you how many times people sigh when I tell them that I have two boys. I get looks of sympathy and pity followed quickly by - so you'll try for a girl, right? Or the boldest yet, "You must be so sad Tiny T isn't a girl." It's horrible and heartbreaking at the same time. 8 months later, it still stops me dead in my tracks. When I'm really fired up, I will say that there were many a day that I truly believed I was never getting the chance to be a mother to two children so I am just thankful everyday to have been given this blessing. People then start backpedaling.

  6. I just tell them I've had 4 miscarriages and they usually shut up. But what you said sounds better. :)